When your inspiration dies (literally) – how my friend with cystic fibrosis taught me that it’s okay to not be okay
It was a long time coming, but that doesn’t make it any easier. It’s never easy, losing someone you love. Last month, my dear friend Lauren – my sister’s best friend since high school – died of complications from a lifetime of battling cystic...Sometimes you’ve just gotta sit this one out
[Added: If you’re in San Diego and need a place to resist that’s easier on your body than the march, you’re welcome to my house. We’ll write letters to Congress, drink hot tea, and comfort each other.] It’s become apparent that I may not be...#ShowMeYourBawdy’s last theme is Happy Happy Joy Joy. What delights you?
I learned the hard way that being miserable helps no one. For years, I suffered for the cause, martyring myself to be what others wanted me to be, and failing horribly at it. I was mean to the people around me and deplorable to myself. One night a few years ago, I sat...#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 6’s theme is Uniquely You. What makes you one-of-a-kind?
Remember that time I tried to recreate Amy Schumer’s Pirelli calendar shoot with Bob Williams? We spent hours trying to get my body in the exact right position with the exact right expression on my face. And we got pretty damn close. Still, I’m no Amy Schumer. But you...#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 5’s theme is Honoring Expansion. How are you growing and branching out?
From a young age, we are all taught to sit down, shut up, and do as we’re told. As we get older, the language changes but the sentiment remains. Lose weight. Don’t wear that. Don’t say that. Be happy with what you’re given. Sit down. Shut up. The trees and sky and...#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 4’s theme is In Your Element. Where do you thrive?
Writing is everything to me: profession, creative outlet, therapy, clarity, life. Most mornings, you will find me sitting next to a window with a cup of tea and my journal, working through whatever my heart, brain and soul needs to process. This is what keeps me sane....#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 3’s theme is Positively Influential. How are you making the world a better place?
I created #BawdyLove because I need it. I need to be surrounded by people actively working to strip away shame and obligation and working to see ourselves and the people around us as valid and worthy as they are right now, right here. My work brings me joy in so many...#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 2’s theme is Your Favorite Things. What really matters to you in life?
For most of my childhood, I hated gathering around a table to eat. I was forced on diets, so I sat there shoving food in my mouth, not even tasting it, waiting for someone to tell me I’d had enough and take the food away. Throughout my life, I’ve had everyone from...#ShowMeYourBawdy Day 1’s theme is Sparkle and Shine. What lights you up?
As you may know from my many #flemingsisters💩show posts, my sister and I have an amazing relationship based on having a blast together. What you may not know is that until very recently we did not get along. It wasn’t easy for me, being the fat, queer sister who...
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