Howdy, I’m Lauren, a storyteller, adventurer, and writing coach.


I’m fascinated with the stories we tell ourselves and captivated by the stories we tell others.

I believe everyone has a unique story, and I want to help you discover yours and tell it to the world. 

Whether you want to find more time to write, build a financially and creatively fulfilling writing career, or discover the transformational power of journaling, I’ve got the tools to help you along your journey.

For over a decade, I’ve helped people:

  • filter through society’s bullshit to hone in on what truly matters to them,
  • write more, write better, write to heal,
  • make a living as a writer and/or blogger.

On my former critically-acclaimed sex blog,, I helped people shed the shame they felt around sex. Through the #BawdyLove revolution and my book Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body, I help people feel more comfortable and confident in their skin. My newsletters are intimate, personal reminders that life is too short to not live it your way, and my blog posts help people gain the tools they need to make their dreams a reality.

My online courses and coaching give creative people the logistical help they need to achieve their goals, from writing that book they’ve been putting off for years to taking that grand adventure their soul’s been dying to have. I help people break down a seemingly impossible goal and turn it into an actionable, affordable, doable plan that turns dreams into reality.

Retreats are my absolute favorite offering. I love taking a small group of people to a stunning location and watching their lives transform. Workshops and speaking opportunities come in a close second, and I am most happy when I get to interact with you in person.


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Lauren is one of the most beautifully sincere people I have ever had the gift of meeting. Her experience runs deep, her perseverance is inspiring. Whether dancing in the sunshine or weathering the storm of life, she is a friend and a mentor - her words are music to my soul. 

She ignites a tiny spark inside me to fan the flames into the seldom reached corners of my mind rife with insecurity and doubt, making my uncertainties vanish as my self confidence reemerges and I begin to realize my individual potential and accept myself as I am. I am grateful to her!

jessica drake

AVN award-winning actress and director of the jessica drade's Guide to Wicked Sex series

Spend time with, listen to, or read the words of Lauren Marie Fleming and she'll do one thing - serve you the permission you've been looking for on a decadent golden platter. Her work allows all of us to be unapologetically ourselves, no matter what size, shape, color or flavor we come in. The world needs more Lauren Marie Fleming.

Steph Jagger

author of the best-seller UNBOUND and executive life coach

If you’ve ever struggled with body shame or let your own feelings about how you look dictate your life choices, then you will find Lauren Marie Fleming's Bawdy Love revelatory. Empathic and unwavering, with her trademark wisdom, wit and winsome personality, Lauren’s philosophy and tools for healing self-hatred shepherds us into a new mental paradigm - one in which we come to recognize our unique beauty, sexiness and desirability instead of denying and hiding it. I've seen Lauren transform lives, by empowering her student to move through the shame and fear they've kept inside for so long, and arrive at a place where they see their bodies the way they really are - beautiful.

Elle Chase

author of Curvy Girl Sex, sex & body image coach

Coaching with Lauren gives me the same feeling I get after spending a weekend with my best friend, building one another up with unconditional love. In just half an hour, I can go from feeling worthless to feeling like I can take on the world. She provides me with such a unique perspective on body image, weight, and mental health in such a genuine, caring way.

Lauren provides me with the tools to love my flawed body and to thrive within it. She inspires me to be better to myself at a time in my life when I rarely feel like I deserve it. Lauren is blazing the path towards radical self love and I’m behind her 100%!


Jenny Kindschy

Coaching client and Bawdy Love retreat participant

Having tea with Lauren is like having a date with someone who is already totally into you. Which in a way, Lauren is. Lauren wants you, me and everyone to succeed, to be the people we want to be, to love ourselves without reserve- right now, right here, no exceptions.

When we met there was not a moment of awkwardness- our conversation was open, free and incredibly beneficial. She found the exact words I needed to hear, encouraging me to go out and take my life by the reins, to see the signs life was sending me, to be joyful and passionate in my own body. Lauren's sunny disposition, her questions and her genuine interest make any conversation with her incredibly invigorating and empowering, and having a hot mug of tea to go along with that makes the experience incomparable.

Claire Palzer

Bawdy Love program participant and coaching client

Frequently Asked Questions

In saying people don’t need to lose weight to love themselves, aren’t you promoting an unhealthy lifestyle?

Short answer: Quite the contrary. Study after study continues to prove that dieting destroys both your physical and emotional health. My work encourages people to thrive as they are, instead of trying to change to fit what someone else wants them to be.

For the long answer to this question, check out my podcast interview with Dr. Martina Shabram. You can find it at

Are you available for interviews and/or media appearances?

I love teaching workshops and speaking to large audiences. You can find links to my past appearances and information about booking me at

Do you offer scholarships, sliding scale, or payment plan options?

Absolutely. I fully believe everyone is worthy of decadence, connection, healing, and fun, no matter what their financial situation.

Every year, I give away 10% of my products, programs, and services to people who could not otherwise afford them. I offer one spot at my retreats a year as a scholarship spot and donate my books, products, and services to groups, organizations, and libraries.

If you’re interested in scholarships or would like a donation to your organization, please email me at

What happens at your retreats?

Transformation. Connection. Healing. Fun. So much fun. And decadence that feeds all of your senses. They’re truly a one-of-a-kind, life-changing experience. Hear from past participants and register for the next retreat at

Were you always confident and comfortable in your body?

Not at all. Most of my life I hated my body and felt completely unworthy of love. One day I realized that hatred was destroying me, and since then I’ve taken conscious steps towards loving myself.  But I didn’t cross some finish line and never doubt my worth again. Every day, I make the decision that I am worthy of love, acceptance, and respect, of joy, decadence, pleasure, and fun. Some days it’s harder than others, but every day it gets a little bit easier.

Every day, you can make the decision to love yourself as well, and I’m here to help guide you along your path. For more information, check out my Bawdy Love Basics free course.

How can I book you to speak at my business, school, organization, or event?

I am extremely passionate about speaking to groups, and would love to come to your event. Everything you need to know about booking me can be found at

Would you come to my Bawdy Love Book Club meeting?

Absolutely! I would be honored. Logistically, it’s difficult for me to physically appear at all book club meetings, but I would happily Skype or FaceTime in. Email to arrange it.

How can I connect with other Bawdy Love participants?

The best way to connect with your fellow Bawdy Lovelies is in the Bawdy Love Facebook group or at a Bawdy Love retreat.

Can I send you mail?

I love getting mail! You can email me at or snail mail me at Lauren Marie Fleming c/o Bordista Media, LLC, 7710 Hazard Center Drive E-139, San Diego, CA 92108.