“I’m 37, I shouldn’t have clothes all over my apartment anymore. I need to grow up.”

My heart dropped as my new coaching client said this to me on the phone today. I was sitting amid a pile of dirty dishes, clothes cascading out of a suitcase from my recent trip, wet towels on the floor.

I’m still sitting amid that mess.

Because on my list of things I want to have done before I die, laundry, dishes, and tidying up falls dead last.

I asked my coaching client if picking up her clothes was on her must-do list. She said nope. So why then do we both hold judgment over ourselves for not having a clean house?

We’ve been told our whole lives that a woman’s value lies in how clean her house is, but that’s a blatant lie.

Maybe dishes are important to you. Good on you! Come on over to my house and we’ll have a party!

Maybe keeping a tidy house is important to your well-being. I can completely respect that. Carry on with your badass cleaning self.

Maybe you love laundry day because it gives you an excuse to roll around in warm clothes. Who doesn’t?

But maybe you’re like me and the only reason you do any of that stuff is so others won’t judge you.

Yes, clutter can create chaos and distract you from the things you really want to do in life, and yes, that rotting smell in the corner should probably be taken care of, but beating yourself up over not having a clean house will only take energy away from what you really want to do.

What is more important to you than laundry?
What is more important to you than doing the dishes?
What is more important to you than sweeping, mopping, dusting, losing ten pounds, doing your hair, wearing fancy clothes, buying into all that crap?

For me, that answer is writing. What’s the answer for you?

Let us know in the Bawdy Love Facebook group or reply to this email if you’d rather share with just me.

With love and light (and dirty clothes everywhere),


P.S. Because I’m on the road right now finishing my next books, I’m going to stop trying to get a newsletter and blog post out to you every Tuesday and instead write to you when I’m inspired.
Don’t forget, you can follow my travels and find out where I’ll be next on Instagram and in the Bawdy Love Facebook group. I also have a Facebook group called Creativity Squared for writers looking to thrive financially, if you’d like to join that.