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Sinclair Sexsmith on connecting to your body through BDSM

Exploring kink and connecting to your body and desires, on Episode 13 of the Bawdy Love Podcast.

Sinclair Sexsmith has come into new realizations of their identity over the years; early on as a queer feminist, later on as a genderqueer, butch top. With every transformation they have gained more and more confidence to express their needs and desires, as well as their identity.

In this episode, we discuss Sinclair’s entry into BDSM communities, how to develop a sense of confidence in one’s own sexual and gender identities, and how to create entry points for people new to the BDSM world. We learn that kink is something that can be explored by any consenting partners — and how partners can broach the subject and begin experimenting with kink.

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Topics covered in this conversation include:

BDSM, top/bottom relationships, kink, sexuality, gender identity

See also: Sinclair Sexsmith’s BDSM Yes/No/Maybe checklist.

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More About Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They’ve written at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair’s gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies and online, and they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair’s first collection of short stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself.

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